Sexism, Allies, and Socks


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16 thoughts on “Sexism, Allies, and Socks”

  1. 14:00 ew yeah my mom told my sisters and I our whole lives to accept ANY guy who asked us out because it takes A LOT of confidence to ask. Wtf, gross!! So problematic, she enforced this all the time

  2. This conversation is super interesting and so far I haven't heard ya'll connect to the 2 things maybe you do later on. But it's interesting that as adults there are people saying well you know you were asking for it with the way that you were dressed. And earlier in the episode you were talking about how at school that's basically what we were taught; Well, look at what you're wearing, look at that tank top ,short skirt etc. No wonder the boys are getting distracted or it's a distraction. It's what we're literally taught and I guess some people just don't ever find their way out of that thinking?

  3. I don't think you should've shamed the first emailer for feeling uncomfortable being sexualized by implying that the problem is with them, asking them to change their boundaries. It's super creepy. Also, calling the body "a beautiful thing" is a matter of opinion. But I don't know what I'd expect from psychologists who just want to force their own values onto other people. I think you don't mean any harm, but honestly I've lost faith in psychology as a whole. It just seems to uphold traditional conservative values in an indirect way while making people that don't agree sound like there's something mentally wrong with them. I hope you critically evaluate the narratives you uphold and question the actual purpose psychology serves in our current social order.

  4. WOOF THAT FIRST MESSAGE! Also, the “care less about what people think” is the worst response possible, in my personal opinion, especially when this is more a safety issue. But a great option I’ve found is genuinely covering my body from my shoulders to my toes. It makes me physically sick when I see men staring at my body (because they don’t do it in a ‘you look cute’ but instead are more threatening in nature.)

    Baggy clothes have allowed me to re-own my body, and I can use jewelry to accessorize. I think it’s so important for female bodied people to learn to reclaim their bodies and expression of self on that body (if you choose.) this has helped me reclaim my body for my own health! And be around people WHO DONT MENTION YOUR BODY!!!! I’ve existed long enough where if someone mentions what my body looks like, it’s a red flag. You can compliment anything (my clothing, personality, etc) but choose to focus on that? Unless the person you are complimenting explicitly is drawing attention to their body, just don’t.

    Edit: Maybe caring less will be an option when I’m older. However, I’ve been through a few highly traumatic experiences where it didn’t matter what I thought or was feeling & avoiding those situations or the ones that lead up to it (staring, catcalling, etc) help me reach a better headspacex

  5. among those who make fun of my ugliness and effortlessness, men are many times more than women. I've heard the same thing hundreds of times from men.
    and if it's the woman who said that to me, I say 'I don't need their attetion, they're all yours' I say 'you got rid of a rival, what more do you want'.
    by the way, it is wrong to lock the attention of men to sexual interest.

  6. men who think that women should be grateful for the attention they get from them, not women. comedy, you've found a comedian like yourself, if you're going to be a feminist like that, don't be.

  7. I'm a religious Christian, and I have no problems to be an ally with LGBT+ persons.
    I think it depends on how you interpret what the essence of Christianity (or any other religion) is.
    I relate to Christianity by Jesus Christ and his life and what he taught. And he surrounded himself with outcasts of society. He did not go to the self-rightgeous pious people and told them how great they were and how much he appreciated them. They were the ones he mostly critisized. He went to those that were outcast by them and allied with them. And he said, that the most important rule in Christianity is "love thy neighbour". To me, Jesus preached inclusivity, he preached to ally with any group that is ostrasized by society, to be empathic even to people who are not perfect (when he interrupted the stoning of an adulteress), and he preached against capitalism. When I hear some people who call themselves Christian, I sometimes wonder, if they have read the same bible I have. A lot of so-called Christians do exactly the opposite of what Jesus Christ, the highest authority in Christianity has told us.
    And I am convinced, if Jesus Christ lived today, he would go to gay pride, he would go to black lives matter demonstrations, he would be as woke as you can get, because he loves all people, no matter how they look and how they live their lives. He did that 2000 years ago, he would do it today.
    And that is why I feel Christian and religious – because of his teachings of inclusivity. And I think that every religion has this message to love and accept others somewhere. Every religion can be interpreted in one way or another, and it is up to us to chose the love or the hate messages in our religion. And I'm not an expert on other religions, but my own religion makes it very easy to find the love parts, because they come from the person after which the religion is named.
    And I'm an ally to LGBT+ people BECAUSE I am religious, and not despite of it.

  8. The first issue is interesting because you have encouraged the person towards self-acceptance but also that includes the idea that whatever size you are doesn’t protect you from anything. It’s a misconception.

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